At the ripe old age of 38, I have found my soul mate. You may be skeptical, especially considering that it was less than three weeks ago that I wrote a post about my ongoing search for him. Allow me to explain.
Frank came into my life in 2005. We went out a few times, but ultimately decided that we preferred to be friends. At that point in time, we just weren’t in the right frames of mind for anything more serious. So friends we became. Over the past six years, however, Frank has always been in the back of my mind – and sometimes in the front. There has always been that nagging question of “what if?” What if we had gone out just one more time? What if I had been more emotionally available?
2005
Frank moved to Hawaii a few years ago, and I had a sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach when he did. That little glimmer of hope that I had held onto for so long seemed to dissipate. We did keep in touch through email and Facebook, and I still wondered “what if” from time to time, though it didn’t seem likely that we would ever have a second chance.
Imagine my surprise when he suddenly moved back to Knoxville a few months ago! I wish I could say that we ran toward each other in slow motion through a field of daisies, but it wasn’t that dramatic. We gradually started talking more and more, and the first time I threw out the idea of dating, he shot me down! But a couple of months later, he threw the idea onto the table. We’ve spent the past month really getting to know each other, and we have come to realize that we are perfect for one another. He is everything I could ever ask for in a man, and I trust him completely.
2011
Sometimes I take a step back and try to look at our situation from an outsider’s perspective. And when I do, I think all of this happened quickly. Perhaps too quickly. But then I remind myself that there was nothing quick about this. The romantic relationship evolved from a six year friendship. And of all the things I love about my Frankie, his friendship is and will always be at the top of the list.
March 4th, 2011 at 7:36 pm
You are absolutely amazing and I love this post! You really are an inspiration to many people out there looking for love. It just goes to show that waiting for the real thing is well worth it. I know it was worth it to me and I look forward to a long life of love!
March 12th, 2011 at 7:42 pm
Came acrossed this from your facebook info. I can’t believe he shot you down! You need to kick him for me. lol
I enjoyed reading how you to hooked up. You have a wonderful way of writing.
March 12th, 2011 at 9:42 pm
Frank – It was so worth it! I love you, hun!
Ashlie – Thank you so much for your nice comment. I’ll definitely give Frank a swift kick for you.
I am so glad to be Facebook friends with you now and look forward to meeting you in person in the near future!
March 16th, 2011 at 4:48 pm
Oh Kat, YAY! It’s been awhile since I’ve checked in with you and I’m so happy to read this.
Sometimes things don’t work out at first because the timing isn’t right. Now you have this strong friendship as a base. That’s perfect for a lifelong relationship. Best of luck to you both!
March 30th, 2011 at 7:42 pm
knowing what i know of you…this must be “it”.
very happy for you!
Frank is a lucky man.
April 3rd, 2011 at 10:14 pm
Chattiekat I am so happy for you. I’ve asked the Lord to bless this relationship, and wish you both much happyness.
April 3rd, 2011 at 10:29 pm
Sorry I goofed when entering my website in previous comment.
January 7th, 2012 at 1:52 am
Well, it’s been almost a year now. It’s amazing how quickly time flies. I have to say that it hasn’t been easy at times. We’ve had our ups and downs over the past year and I have broken up with her 3 times now out of frustration and stupidity. Hey, she even admits that she is very independent and hard to deal with at times, and she wasn’t kidding. But so am I and I will be the first to admit that. However, neither of us have given up, especially Tish! Even though I have walked away, albeit not far, Tish has stuck by my side and showed me the value and meaning of unconditional love. I guess you could say that I was broken from past relationships but thankfully Tish has helped put me back together and made me whole again. I couldn’t imagine not having her around for the rest of my life. In fact, the thought of losing her absolutely breaks my heart. Over the past couple of months we have worked very hard on rebuilding our friendship and are now back in a relationship that is even stronger than it was before. I am so thankful to have finally met the woman that I will spend the rest of my life with. After so many years of waiting and wondering if it would ever happen, it has finally come to fruition. I couldn’t be more thankful to have such an awesome woman in my life and to have someone who really does love me as much as I love her. I am proud to call Tish my best friend, my one true love, and my soul mate. I love you, baby, forever!