It seems that Christmas just passed, yet everywhere I go, I am reminded that Valentine’s Day is quickly approaching. Valentine’s Day may as well be called Doomsday for those of us who are single. The world around us is celebrating love. We are sitting on our asses, more than ever aware of how much is sucks to be alone.
I’m a very independent woman. I’ve been single for a number of years, and I’ve come to realize that I don’t need a man in my life. I go through the motions of day to day living, completely capable of taking care of myself. I have lots of friends to hang out with if I feel so inclined. I go where I want, do what I please - all with no one to answer to. Some would say that I have a desirable lifestyle. I’ll admit that it sometimes has its benefits. But when the days are done, I go home to an empty house. I go to bed alone. I lie awake and dream of a day when my loneliness is no more - a day when I feel truly in love with someone who feels the same way about me.
I’ve been divorced for about six and a half years. My marriage was nothing to speak of. I was trapped in a destructive relationship that got worse by the day. I spent five years married to a man who showed his affection with his fist. There were days that I wanted to just disappear. And there were days that I felt I’d be better off dead. It took a long time, but I finally conquered my fears and left that life behind me. I swore that I’d never consider marriage again. I’ve run from it ever since.
Over the course of my adult life, I’ve discovered that there are lots of real jerks in the world. But I’ve also discovered that there are some really nice guys out there. I’ve made so many wonderful friends since my divorce. I’m very thankful for those friendships, but at the same time, I long for the friendship that will surpass all others - the one that will convince me to open my heart to true love.
Each Valentine’s Day, I’m reminded that I’ve yet to find that which I desire. And each Valentine’s Day, I pray that by the next one, I’ll have met that one special guy who will love me for the person I am - tough, brave, and independent on the surface, but underneath it all, a scared, lonely little girl with no other wish than to be loved as she has never been loved before.
January 10th, 2006 at 4:38 am
Awww *Hug*!
Call me an old cynic or unromantic, but I don’t dig on Valentines Day much - it’s just an excuse to sell cards, chocolates and flowers and overprice them at the same time.
I tell Martha that we will not be going out - the restaurants are always packed and the service is always crap because they’re so overworked on that day.
Personally I think any other day of the year makes a more romantic time to be doing all of this…it shows you care and don’t follow the crowd, and enjoy doing things a little *differently*.
Nevertheless I really hope love finds you soon Tish!
January 10th, 2006 at 5:17 am
You just reminded me that I’ll be alone for Valentines Day too. Gee thanks… Kidding. I divorced at an early age have been running from it since just like you. It’s a shame too because I just broke up with a very wonderful person for various stupid reasons. Damn relationships! I’m confident I’ll find that special person one of these days. You will too!
January 10th, 2006 at 5:31 am
I hope you find that soon, Tish xx
January 10th, 2006 at 8:04 am
I realize it’s a little early, but will you be my valentine?
January 10th, 2006 at 8:31 am
I agree with gabby. I don’t let a commercially inflated otherwise useless holiday control my love calendar. You have shown the courage to leave a destructive relationship — many don’t. Maybe it has taken this long for you to really be ready for a real love. Good luck in finding it.
BTW, after Sam and I had been dating about 4 months, at the end of a date in Feb., I held her close to me and in a nervous voice asked her: “Would you…would you, please…would you…be my valentine?” She hit me.
January 10th, 2006 at 9:56 am
In 1994 I got married on Valentines Day. In 2000 I became divorced from Mrs. David. This day has lost most of its appeal. Our relationship was very distructive. Which has taken me a long time to recover.
January 10th, 2006 at 9:59 am
Being single sucks. But when I look at all my friends and how the marriages completely suck. Being single doesn’t seem too bad.
Commericialism has ruined all the holiday’s. The day after new years eve the food store by me already had Valentine crap out. It seems that being romantic doesn’t go to far these days anymore either. It’s buy, buy, buy.
January 10th, 2006 at 10:31 am
Last valentine’s day, i was single and decided to ask out a girl over IM to breakfast… basically to get the date over with early so I could enjoy the rest of the day, knowing i already had met required engagement.
So turn this around… if you are still single by v-day use it as an excuse to ask some random guy out. Who knows, it might lead to a second date… in my case however it turned out her roommate was a bitch i had gone out with before and even though we got along okay I just didn’t see it going anywhere =p
January 10th, 2006 at 10:34 am
Love will find you.
How could it miss such a wonderful lady?
Take Care
Michael
January 10th, 2006 at 10:49 am
I had a roommate who around this time of year would go around and say, “So what you are doing for VD?” and people would freak out until he’d go–I meant Valentine’s Day. LOL
Anyway, I try to not think about the fact that I’m alone. Cuase in a way I’m not. I have a family who loves me and I love them. I am blessed with freinds. And I hope I show them daily how much I care for them, not just once a year with candy and sappy cards.
And hey, love is gonna find you and totally knock you off your feet in a good way. And that is one lucky man!
January 10th, 2006 at 2:48 pm
You’ve been tagged!
January 10th, 2006 at 6:18 pm
Don’t let the marketing morons suck you into the hype. When you find the one, Valentine’s Day won’t be a big deal at all. You’ll have more important things to celebrate. It’ll happen. You’re beautiful and funny and kind and things will turn your way.
And Don dragged that whole question thing out a lot longer than he wrote - he really built it up like a proposal. I should’a known then and there what I was in for!
January 10th, 2006 at 6:40 pm
Big Big HUG to Tish from one mr.Topcat…if I sit on your lap and purr will you feel better?
January 10th, 2006 at 9:46 pm
For many years I had a fun bunch of single friends who threw a “Love Sucks” party for every Valentines. There were heart shaped cakes with daggers stuck in them oozing strawberry syrup. The “passport” into the party was to tell a pathetic “love sucks story” … only after which you were served a “real drink.” It was always a lot of fun! Now most of them are hooked up or married… those parties don’t happen anymore.
January 10th, 2006 at 10:48 pm
Hey Tish! Thought of you — Lovin’ for all!!!
January 11th, 2006 at 4:21 am
Gabby ~ Thanks for the hug and the encouraging words! Regardless of your thoughts on V-Day, I do hope that you and Martha have a great one!
Oftrash ~ Sorry to hear about your breakup. You should try to repair things! Best of luck to you! And thanks for the kind words!
Deadly Female ~ Thanks, doll!
Anonymous ~ Email me, and we’ll discuss this Valentine thing.
Don ~ Thanks for the support. As for what you said to Samantha, you should be ashamed! *LOL* I’m sure she was didn’t know what to expect when you drug out that question the way you did! hehe.
David ~ Sorry to hear that! I hope that future Valentine’s Days hold better memories for you!
January 12th, 2006 at 7:56 am
commercialized romance aside, isn’t it a bit early to say you’re not gonna have a date?
just try not to sweat it, and maybe ask some guys out or drop a hint here and there, maybe someone will ask you.
August 31st, 2006 at 7:53 am
Time to start thinking about that then, since the birthday and Christmas presents are out the way…
February 13th, 2008 at 7:46 pm
We should all band together and loot a few cities. I bet that would help take the bite of of this holiday.
It gets old and more irritating every time you hear it, but I still believe when the time is right, you’ll meet somebody who will treat you right as rain.