Florida Boy and I had planned to meet this next weekend in Macon, Georgia. It’s about halfway between Knoxville and Tampa. Anyway, I have been nervous and a bit scared, but excited too. I have grown quite fond of him. We talk on the phone, email, instant message, and text message each other every day. I think he knows more about me than anyone does. And I know just as much about him. Everything has gone so well over the past 7 weeks that I’ve known him. Until tonight. He called to tell me that he thinks things are moving two quickly between us. He says that he loves me, but that he’s not ready to meet. Naturally, a thousands thoughts have run through my mind. Why? Why was he so excited to meet me, and now he’s not? Is there someone else? Is there something wrong with me? Does he think he won’t feel the same about me in person? My heart aches. I told him that we can focus on just being friends with no intentions of ever meeting. But he says he doesn’t like that idea either. He says that he wants things to continue just as they have over the last 7 weeks. And that he wants to meet when he feels more comfortable with things.
I’m so confused right now. I can’t imagine being without his friendship. I can’t even imagine going a day without talking to him. Should I just let things go the way they’ve been going? Or should I cut my losses by ending things? I want to believe everything he says to me, but it’s so hard for me to put all my trust in someone. I’ve been hurt so badly in the past that I can’t help but wonder if Florida Boy will do the same thing to me. And I don’t think my heart can stand another beating.
I honestly believe that he does care very much for me. He shows it every day. He tells me every opportunity he gets. Still, I can’t help but wonder – am I stupid to think that a long distance relationship could actually work out? And why is it that I’m shedding tears for someone that I’ve never even met?
October 31st, 2005 at 9:54 am
What are you doing up at 3AM? *ahem*
I used to be stationed in Macon, GA (actually Warner Robbins, very close). Very popular strip club there, so if you went and he was a no show you would have something to do…
Maybe because I’m a “hands on” guy (hehe), but I just don’t get the online, never met thing. Are you falling for the person, or what you think the person might be like? And even if you are falling for the person, what image of you does that person have?
Backing out with “too fast” when you’ve been chatting for 7 weeks and never met.. hugh flag. We’re talking Abe Lincoln, “What the hell is this Navy Jack?” type of flag. You’re worth more than just sitting around while some random guy “makes up his mind.”
Go out, go on a few dates (I’m sure some of your HNT fans will make the drive to take you out… I won’t name names, but you know who you are), and have fun. The dates will probably be bad (most are), so come back and blog about how bad they were! It’s a win for all of us! lol.
October 31st, 2005 at 10:25 am
Mike kinda sums it up for me. Quite eloquently, I might add! This just seemed to rub me the wrong way from the beginning. I don’t know if it’s worth it to be so worked up over someone that you haven’t actually met face-to-face. Hope it works out for the best, whatever you decide….
October 31st, 2005 at 11:29 am
Tish,
Let’s face it…you are pretty darn cute and hot all around. And maybe guy realized that and got nervous that you might love him online but not in person….
Or he’s been hurt and burned and is afraid to try again.
I don’t know as I”m not him.
I’d say not give up on him just yet.
Or you could just call me and we can hang out…one of the two. LOL
October 31st, 2005 at 12:03 pm
here’s my two cents on the subject… no make that 3 cents…. forget him! Something is fishy smelling and I’m with the other guys…flags are flying all over the place. After 7 weeks? Either he’s not being honest about something or he’s a fool for not wanting to meet a woman that is as attractive as you. If he met someone face to face would he wait 7 weeks before he asked her out if they talked every day… nope! Save your heart, there is a lucky guy out there some place.
October 31st, 2005 at 3:54 pm
I’m the last person to talk expertly on relationships, but I have to agree with everyone commenting here.
Backing out of a meeting like that seems rather strange – I mean, I’d go through with it just out of sheer curiosity, even if there was no intention of having a relationship beyond the internet.
It’s a sad fact of life that all of us, me included can easily put on a fabulous online persona (well, i think I do!) but in real life can be a real let down – I’m very shy and retiring mostly in real life, but I think I get myself across better in writing than I do in speaking.
As to long distance relationships, after my wife and I met we sent letters across 3000 miles (Canada to the UK and back again) for 6 years before finally getting married. It may be a long way away, but at least you guys don’t HAVE to get on a plane!
October 31st, 2005 at 6:15 pm
I’ve stumbled acrossyour blog a couple of times and have never commented before now. I’ve done the long distance and online dating relationships thing. Take it from me, you’re probably better off this way. You’re far too beautiful to be alone for very long. Besides, the first thing that comes to mind is that he’s either married or already in some sort of relationship. I wish you nothing but the absolute best.
November 1st, 2005 at 1:26 am
Tish, I don’t know who Florida guy is, but I’d drive from Arizona to meet you. You are a stunning woman, and he MUST be crazy!!!
November 1st, 2005 at 1:41 am
Mike ~ Didn’t you know that single and lonely women like myself have nothing better to do than sit around and blog at 3 AM? hehe. I like your idea about going on bad dates and then blogging about them. I can see a weekly feature coming on! Thanks for the advice, friend!
Osbasso ~ Thanks for the friendship and support! And I apologize for not answering your email yet. I’ve been drowning in my studies. I’ll drop you a line soon!
Michael ~ Where would I be without friends like you? hehe. Thanks for the sweet compliments! We should definitely hang out next time you’re in K-Town or I’m in Nashvegas! I haven’t seen you in forever!
Nniceguy269 ~ Thanks for stopping by my blog, and thanks for the kind words! Maybe that “lucky guy” will decide to show up one of these days!
Gabby ~ Thanks for the support, friend! I’m so glad that the long distance thing worked out for you and your wife. I’ll just wait and see what happens for me. I’m sure that there’s someone out there for me, even if it’s not Florida Boy.
Anonymous ~ Thanks for stopping by, and I appreciate your kind words and advice!
Taco ~ Thank you! Let me know when you start driving! hehe.
And to Marc and Eric who have sent me emails about this, I appreciate your friendship and advice! It is so nice to have friends like you!
November 1st, 2005 at 5:04 am
Tish, I don’t know the whole history here but I just want to say a few things. Be honest with FB about the way this makes you feel. Ask him point blank if there is something he isn’t telling you. But to be honest I might be able to talk about meeting but it would be really hard for me to go through with it. I would be SO insecure. And that’s just with the friends I have met online I couldn’t imagine if there were actual romantic feelings involved.
You are a stunningly beautiful woman. That, matched with your stunningly beautiful personality makes for a pretty intimadating situation. Honesty is always the best policy and that’s all that I can offer up. Hope things get better.
November 1st, 2005 at 8:24 am
a. rude of him therefore he does not deserve your affections.
b. what is he hiding?
c. seven weeks AND NEVER MEETIN G is moving too fast?! what?! imagine you ran into some guy at a coffeeshop down the street and he insisted you only talk on the phone/online for the first 7 weeks of your relationship.
Your a catch babe – and you deserve much more.
November 1st, 2005 at 6:45 pm
Something sounds fishy. Every night for 7 weeks and he’s not ready to meet? I would by dying for a face-to-face by then.
Maybe there is something (or someone) that he has not told you about.
November 2nd, 2005 at 11:33 am
girl, i think i can empathize… and while the boys may have a point, i agree with the girls more on this one!!!